I could probably make this into a topic but I don't need dozens of comments from kids thinking I'm on my period or something, so you know, be warned.
This thought of mine comes from my revisit to Stickam the other night. I actually had fun talking to Slap and Freaki and everything was just nice for a change, the usual banter was too present which helps the laughs still.
Anyway, a typical Stickam randomer guy comes on. Big mouth, nothing else. He pipes up on his mic to Slap "You're in here talking to fat bitches". I was on cam at the time, so obviously knew who the comment was directed at. I don't run and hide online, not like I do irl, so I sat there just listening to this twit talking, then when I started speaking, I got a load of shit from this guy, of course about my weight. I play along like I always do until I had enough of him and rightly kicked him.
Then I was thinking later about how I see this kind of behavior from the NG users too. Whenever a random girl enters the Stickam room, if she's not that good looking she'll get slated straight away. The girl doesn't even have to talk before the usual males are there trying to upset/anger/troll her, and if she's good looking? Well everyone will just ask for tits, or insult her for being vain or some shit.
I mean, I get it all the time. I'm used to it, even when it's from NGers I know on somewhat of a personal level, I still get the digs and the jokes, and eventually enough of them wear down on you, and I ask myself; Is it JUST because I'm fat? I don't think I'm a bad person, or THAT bad a person. Sure I'm a big moral fag sometimes but am I that much of a horrible person that people - people I have generally gotten along with see me as nothing but a fat waste who they have some right to just laugh about as if I'm nothing more then body fat?
Seriously I'd love to know.
So anyway. I wonder, why do boys do this? Us girls are generally much less driven by looks. We'll give anyone the time of day to talk before we openly mock or judge them. Unless of course the girl who is doing the judging is a total bitch, but most of us actually aren't. Some are just too sheltered and naive and too damn pretty to see anything beyond their own reflection. This works for guys too though.
So why do guys judge firstly and mostly on looks alone, yet girls will tend to listen first and be more accepting of that guy as long as they aren't a total dickhead or something.
What gives average looking males the right to judge solely on the looks and usually in a negative fashion before a girl can even talk? And even after she's proven that she is a person to still get the same amount of shit back?
If being skinny means I'd start treating people of different weight badly just because I'd be skinner, then I guess this is the one time I'm glad to be who I am.
UncleABCD
"Us girls are generally much less driven by looks"
"So why do guys judge firstly and mostly on looks alone, yet girls will tend to listen first and be more accepting of that guy as long as they aren't a total dickhead or something."
That's completly not true and I'm sure you know that, to be honest I'd say it's the other way round. I think the answer is obvious, and it's not just guys.
The whole world does the same thing, humans judge by looks (and that is human nature, better looking is usually who people will mate with) we judge society and who is popular and who is not by their appearance and looks.
It's nothing new; and considering you're on the internet where anyone can say pretty much anything to anybody while hiding behind there IP address and monitor you wouldn't of been the first to be insulted.
It's not just guys, on the internet, sure, seeing as the internet is highly populated by males. IRL it goes both ways.
Gagsy
Oh god I know it's not just the guys, but I tend to have found in my personal experience that girls will be the kinder sex unless of course you upset them and then nothing can stop them.
Yeah I heard years ago that an employer will know within like 5 seconds of an interview whether they want to hire you or not, which comes down to your appearance and the handshake (unless you really fuck the interview up of course). Looks ARE the first thing we judge someone on. If I saw someone with a big birthmark on their face that would be the first thing I think about. The same when I saw an albino guy in real life, I couldn't stop myself from staring to be honest.
The difference is saying the stuff that you're thinking, and irl I still find guys to be the first to let their big mouths open over something as petty as looks.